My family has been so great the last month. I have sprung a lot of changes on them and I have really needed their help and support. Last week my Dad drove to California to get all of my stuff from from my storage unit since I will not have time to get it before my new job starts in Pennsylvania. My little brother went with him to help load the stuff and drive the U-Haul. I am so grateful to them for taking the time to help me out with such a big thing. It really relieved a lot of stress for me. My Dad and Mom left this morning to finish driving all of my stuff out here to Wisconsin and also to see me get married on Thursday. When John and I first started talking we had toyed with the idea of an elopement. When I told them I was pretty sure they weren't going to make it. I am so glad they are both making the long drive to bring my stuff and to share in my day!
Now for my future family....John has been amazing in letting me go to Pennsylvania. I don't know many men who are secure enough to let their new wife move to another state for four months just so she can accept the internship of her dreams. I am so excited about this new opportunity. It will be hard but I honestly feel like the experience will be worth it and that we will pull through. He is my rock!
Friday Night Date....
So for our Friday night date tonight, John and I went down to the courthouse to get our marriage license....(I think this is when I start realizing this is REAL!). After that he took me to his salon so we could get haircuts. I must say that I wasn't sure what to expect given that most men don't really care who (or what) actually cut their hair. I wasn't sure how loosely he was using the term "salon" when he first told me he had made us appointments. Of course he exceeded my expectations and the salon was beautiful! Even better, I actually found a stylist who is not afraid to make recommendations and to really USE those thinning shears! The salon itself was located in a bridge overlooking the city. It was the kind of place that takes your drink order and has you waiting on overstuffed leather chairs....I think I could get used to this. It was decorated in a very Feng Shui style and the whole wall was windows so you could see the city. Best part was that it was VERY reasonably priced. (Any haircut under $50 and I am one happy girl). Very cool. I just got my hair trimmed and thinned but I definately want to go back. After that we went out for dinner and talked. When we first started getting to know each other we would stay up all night talking on the phone....it's nice to know that we still enjoy that even in person...
I Heart Wisconsin....
*The fabulous parks! (although we are usually spending time in them at 5am and really how much can you truly enjoy something that early in the morning!)
*Lake Michigan...standing on the beach is literally like standing on the edge of the ocean. The lake is so large you can't see the other side!
*IKEA! Well not in WI but there is one in Chicago less than 90 min from where I live.
*Tons of outdoor things like running and biking trails....I am convinced they need all of these so people can work off all the delicious things there are to eat!
*Huge selection of ma and pop restaurants that offer a wide variety of food from different cultures...
*Wisconsin White Cheddar Cheese Curds....fried cheese...need I say more!
*Homemade custard and at $1.67 for two large scoops... you can't go wrong!
*John.
Meet John...
In my last post I failed to mention a large reason why my life seems extra chaotic at the moment.
Meet John.
As I have talked with my family and friends over the last few days I have been able to talk to them a little bit about him. I regret that many will not get to meet him anytime soon but I wanted to introduce him to you through words until you actually get to meet the real deal. Maybe tonight I can even snap some pictures for you so he can become more real and perhaps you could even see why it is I have found the man that I want to spend the rest of my life with. Admittedly, in the past, I have sported a large cheese-flavored chip on my shoulder for men and perhaps even relationships in general. I think a large part of this was due to experiences of my friends and also even some of my own that have not turned out so well. I always figured it would take me a long time to "get used to someone" long enough to actually fall in love with them. I have always had rather long-term relations and yet still I could never get things right. Perhaps I was just waiting for the former relationships to "become right" when in retrospect, I see clearly why they could never be successful. I know that the relationship with John is still new but I also know that I am going to spend the rest of my life with him. I can't believe how right everything feels.
From the start John has always been incredibly supportive of my ideas. I found this growing up in my family with parents and siblings to some extent but never before in a romantic relationship. We have already had to make some major decisions in regards to our relationship and future and John never fails to consider my plans or my ideas. He is a full supporter of "the list" and even loves me for it.
As everything is kind of up in the air, my first instinct is to panic. As I have gotten older I have found that I am somewhat of a control freak. Not when it comes to others (I am surprisingly open about this) but definately in regards to my own life. John has the ability with one look or one word to calm me down and to help remind me that everything truly will turn out ok. He keeps reminding me that even though I have difficult choices to make, whichever I choose will be a good choice. I am not in a position where I am forced to choose bad choice or bad choice...only two great things.
I have watched how John has opened up his life to me in a very unselfish way. He is making major changes so I can still pursue the things that are important to me. Once in a while in a gentle way he reminds me that "it's not just all about me." This is definately something that I need once in a while.
John is a very grateful man. He often thanks me for the little things I wasn't sure he even noticed. He also is very thankful to God and recognizes that all that he has is a gift and that it could be taken away at any time.
John is ambitious like me. He is not afraid of my intensity to accomplish goals and he himself is a "list guy". Education is important to him and he is preparing to begin his Master's Program. He takes pride in his work and is honest in his dealings.
I feel extremely blessed to have John in my life. I know we will have many fantastic years together and I look forward to them with great anticipation.
Meet John.
As I have talked with my family and friends over the last few days I have been able to talk to them a little bit about him. I regret that many will not get to meet him anytime soon but I wanted to introduce him to you through words until you actually get to meet the real deal. Maybe tonight I can even snap some pictures for you so he can become more real and perhaps you could even see why it is I have found the man that I want to spend the rest of my life with. Admittedly, in the past, I have sported a large cheese-flavored chip on my shoulder for men and perhaps even relationships in general. I think a large part of this was due to experiences of my friends and also even some of my own that have not turned out so well. I always figured it would take me a long time to "get used to someone" long enough to actually fall in love with them. I have always had rather long-term relations and yet still I could never get things right. Perhaps I was just waiting for the former relationships to "become right" when in retrospect, I see clearly why they could never be successful. I know that the relationship with John is still new but I also know that I am going to spend the rest of my life with him. I can't believe how right everything feels.
From the start John has always been incredibly supportive of my ideas. I found this growing up in my family with parents and siblings to some extent but never before in a romantic relationship. We have already had to make some major decisions in regards to our relationship and future and John never fails to consider my plans or my ideas. He is a full supporter of "the list" and even loves me for it.
As everything is kind of up in the air, my first instinct is to panic. As I have gotten older I have found that I am somewhat of a control freak. Not when it comes to others (I am surprisingly open about this) but definately in regards to my own life. John has the ability with one look or one word to calm me down and to help remind me that everything truly will turn out ok. He keeps reminding me that even though I have difficult choices to make, whichever I choose will be a good choice. I am not in a position where I am forced to choose bad choice or bad choice...only two great things.
I have watched how John has opened up his life to me in a very unselfish way. He is making major changes so I can still pursue the things that are important to me. Once in a while in a gentle way he reminds me that "it's not just all about me." This is definately something that I need once in a while.
John is a very grateful man. He often thanks me for the little things I wasn't sure he even noticed. He also is very thankful to God and recognizes that all that he has is a gift and that it could be taken away at any time.
John is ambitious like me. He is not afraid of my intensity to accomplish goals and he himself is a "list guy". Education is important to him and he is preparing to begin his Master's Program. He takes pride in his work and is honest in his dealings.
I feel extremely blessed to have John in my life. I know we will have many fantastic years together and I look forward to them with great anticipation.
Pure unadulterated chaos...
So things have been really chaotic for the last month. I have been wondering about where I am going to live, where I am going to work, and what I am going to do with my life. I have known that by the time September came around that everything in my life would change. I am eager and yet a little nervous. Just to update everyone, I am moving to Pennsylvania since I received a job offer for the position I wanted with their state agency. I am so relieved. I know that our economy is not strong right now and that especially when it comes to state or federal funded programs my chances could potentially be decreased. I feel grateful that I get this opportunity.
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