Dating on Demand...

I have had multiple discussions with an unamed friend of mine. We are both single and "older" well, in "Mormon Years" that is... We talk of our goals, ambitions and of course dating. We have discovered that our approaches to dating are both very different. Of course like usual I like to think that I am right but as I contemplated our most recent conversation I decided I might be doing this all wrong! You see I am what you might label a "serial dater". I have had a mere two "meaningful" relationships in my entire life but I have been on over 600 dates in the last four years. She has been on a "few" dates. I have dated a variety of men from all different ages, sizes, religions and personality types. I have had a plethera of bad dates and some nearly catastrophic. As I reflect back on the hours spent arranging, preparing and attending these dates I wonder how my time might have been better spent. Don't get me wrong I have met some great guys and have had some amazing experiences on the dates but is it all worth the "dating label"? My friend goes on dates with guys she KNOWS she could get along with well. She knows what she wants and she doesn't lose sight of that. Obviously neither approach is completely foolproof or at least one of us would be swimming in the "couples" pond... but I think I could definately learn something from her.